The first step is to be sure that both of you want to save the relationship.  Although with a lot of hard work almost every situation can be solved, it is better if both parties decide they want to work together to stop the breakup.

The worst thing that can be done is to stay in a relationship because of the children. Both in the couple should be sure that they want to stay together, and work to achieve it so as to obtain good results.  Staying together due to children is only postponing the problem.

After deciding to work together to save the relationship, you should find the problems in it. People usually get confused between the problems and the symptoms of the problem.

The most common confusion arises in the case of affairs. You may think that the cause of a breakup can be an affair, but the real problem can be deeper, such as lack of intimacy in the couple. Perhaps an affair can be forgiven, but if the core problem isn’t solved, it will happen again.

When the couple starts to talk about the real problems is when the relationship starts to have chance to be saved.